|Posted by firstname.lastname@example.org on May 24, 2013 at 10:15 AM|
Recently a client called and wanted to schedule a hypnosis session for "relationship problems." During the counseling part of the session, it seemed to me that what he was experiencing was a shutting down - closing off - of his heart. Closing down to love, to the world, to his creativity.
The solution? Re-learning to open the heart. "Yes," he said. "But how do you do that?"
7 solutions for opening the heart are~
1. Writing yourself a love letter. Write about who you would like to be, how you would like to be living and put it in the present tense. "I am fully and completely living my life in a way that is fulfilling and enjoyable..." or something like that. Put in all the juicy stuff about who you are, who you are becoming. Be as detailed as possible. Write about how you are taking care of yourself spiritually, nutritionally, physically. Reread this letter daily. Carry it in your wallet or purse. Have it be the last thing you read before falling asleep.
2. Before falling asleep each night, ask yourself “who have I closed my heart to today?” And then open it. Send love to the cashier you were grumpy to, the driver in front of you that you complained about, your pets, strangers, loved ones. All of them.
3. Become the most loving and happy person you know. When faced with a decision about how to live, how to respond, ask yourself “what is the most loving action I can take?” Do that.
4. Spend a few minutes in meditation every morning. Yes, even those of you who say “I can’t meditate.” Yes you can. Try this: pick a word or a phrase to meditate on. For example, “I am loving and loved.” Find/create a welcoming, quiet place to meditate and focus on your phrase. When your thoughts start to wonder, come back to your phrase. Do this for a few minutes everyday. You may want to put your hands on your heart to help keep you centered.
5. Read The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer. One of his many beautiful teachings is to never allow your heart to close. Never. No matter what. Commit to always keeping your heart open. So beautiful, yes?
6. Be of service. I love the adage “I once complained I had no shoes until I met a man with no feet.” I believe it was Marianne Williamson who said “whenever someone comes to see me complaining of depression, I ask them ‘what are you doing to be of service?’” Find a place, organization, person or cause to support. Invite others to join you.
7. Tell the truth. I call this the TTT step. When others ask you what’s new, tell the truth. Tell them that you’re working on opening your heart. This is so much more true and rewarding then our usual “oh, not much. Just working and stuff.” Telling others that you are working on opening your heart invites amazingly beautiful, rich and authentic connections.
Be well. Be happy. Be open.