A blog about self help, hypnotherapy, life coaching, past life regression, san miguel de allende, and other ideas to help you be happy:)
|Posted by [email protected] on November 21, 2013 at 2:00 PM||comments (0)|
It's nearing the end of November and I'm already beginning to think about my resolutions for the coming year.
I hear you - quietly huffing and puffing - signaling how much you dispise them. I used to too. Then I started to view them differently. I resolved to work on changing the things that I really wanted to change.
In 2011 I resolved to give up using words that no longer served me. Hate. Should. Busy, Crazy. Can't. And started using words like productive, love, could and can. I was able to keep this resolution throughtout 2011, and ever since.
In 2012 I resloved to give up using and buying plastic bottles, especially drinking bottles. I've continued this resolution too. And have likely saved the earth a few hundred - if not thousands - of bottles.
In 2013 I resolved to trust. As in trust with a capitol T. Trusting in the Universe, trusting that all will work out - all the right clients will show up, all the right art collectors, social invitations, friends, opportunities and creative ideas. My mantra for the entire year has been I trust. It has saved me and served me in countless situations.
And for 2014? I resolve to connect. To heal old, forgotten or broken connections. To make new ones. To breathe new life into current connections. To show up more fully in my relationships with others. To consider for a moment - before declining an invitation, deleting an email, screening phone calls - making the healthiest, most loving choice that may (or may not) lead to better connections.
"And what about the other stuff?" I hear you asking. What about getting healthier, being more successful, losing weight, getting to the gym? Yes, that's there too. I found that giving up words like hate, should, can't and busy, being kinder to the earth, trusting everything - the other stuff seems to take care of itself.
I seem to take better care of myself. Easily and effortlessly. Without hating, shaming or shoulding myself into it.
Happy 2014 to you, and here's knowing that you can make - and keep - the right resolution for you and your highest good.
|Posted by [email protected] on November 7, 2013 at 10:05 AM||comments (0)|
Yes, it's true. The Great American Smokeout is scheduled for Thursday, November 21, 2013! Below is the link to the American Cancer Society's website with resources and tools, a guide to quitting smoking, a cigarette cost calculator and more.
I believe the time to use a link such as The American Cancer society is NOW, before you really need it.
As in, use the info now - before a doctor or other health professional tells you that you have cancer.
And besides, won't you love yourself so much more for being a quitter?
In celebration of You, Joseph
|Posted by [email protected] on October 10, 2013 at 6:00 PM||comments (2)|
Looking for more happiness in your life? Try this~
1. Help someone else less fortunate. The adage "I once complained I had no shoes until I met another that had no feet" still applies.
2. Watch your thoughts. Ernest Holmes, Founder of Science of Mind, taught us change your thinking, change your life.
3. Be still.
4. Journal. Write down your thoughts, feelings, ideas, plans, regrets, hurts, all of it. An amazing tool, know as The Morning Pages (I also like to call them The Mourning Pages) are the birth-child of Julia Cameron and are written by millions of people first thing every morning. Join them.
5. Let go of your clutter. Donate, re-gift, recycle, freecycle your unwanted stuff. One must let go to let in.
6. Get out of your own head. Listen, connect with others, help where needed. And help is needed everywhere. You need not look far.
7. Laugh. Go to a comedy improv show, pull up a funny comedy routine on itunes, ask a child to tell you their favorite joke.
8. Stop listening to and repeating your old stories. Stories of I'm too old. I'm too young. I'm not ready,. It's too late. I don't have enough. Enough money, time, experience, friends, support. Write a new story, now.
9. Take action. Move in the direction of your dreams, in the direction of your highest potential. What could you do today that in a year your higher self will thank you for?
10. Practice visualizing yourself as successful, happy and fulfilled. Feel what that feels like, get a really good sense of it and carry that feeling with you throughout the day. Share it with others. Make it real.
|Posted by [email protected] on May 24, 2013 at 10:15 AM||comments (0)|
Recently a client called and wanted to schedule a hypnosis session for "relationship problems." During the counseling part of the session, it seemed to me that what he was experiencing was a shutting down - closing off - of his heart. Closing down to love, to the world, to his creativity.
The solution? Re-learning to open the heart. "Yes," he said. "But how do you do that?"
7 solutions for opening the heart are~
1. Writing yourself a love letter. Write about who you would like to be, how you would like to be living and put it in the present tense. "I am fully and completely living my life in a way that is fulfilling and enjoyable..." or something like that. Put in all the juicy stuff about who you are, who you are becoming. Be as detailed as possible. Write about how you are taking care of yourself spiritually, nutritionally, physically. Reread this letter daily. Carry it in your wallet or purse. Have it be the last thing you read before falling asleep.
2. Before falling asleep each night, ask yourself “who have I closed my heart to today?” And then open it. Send love to the cashier you were grumpy to, the driver in front of you that you complained about, your pets, strangers, loved ones. All of them.
3. Become the most loving and happy person you know. When faced with a decision about how to live, how to respond, ask yourself “what is the most loving action I can take?” Do that.
4. Spend a few minutes in meditation every morning. Yes, even those of you who say “I can’t meditate.” Yes you can. Try this: pick a word or a phrase to meditate on. For example, “I am loving and loved.” Find/create a welcoming, quiet place to meditate and focus on your phrase. When your thoughts start to wonder, come back to your phrase. Do this for a few minutes everyday. You may want to put your hands on your heart to help keep you centered.
5. Read The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer. One of his many beautiful teachings is to never allow your heart to close. Never. No matter what. Commit to always keeping your heart open. So beautiful, yes?
6. Be of service. I love the adage “I once complained I had no shoes until I met a man with no feet.” I believe it was Marianne Williamson who said “whenever someone comes to see me complaining of depression, I ask them ‘what are you doing to be of service?’” Find a place, organization, person or cause to support. Invite others to join you.
7. Tell the truth. I call this the TTT step. When others ask you what’s new, tell the truth. Tell them that you’re working on opening your heart. This is so much more true and rewarding then our usual “oh, not much. Just working and stuff.” Telling others that you are working on opening your heart invites amazingly beautiful, rich and authentic connections.
Be well. Be happy. Be open.
|Posted by [email protected] on May 8, 2013 at 5:45 PM||comments (0)|
When people find out that I am a practicing hypnotherapist, they often ask "what's the most common problem that you work with?"
And my resounding answer: FEAR.
My spiritual beliefs are that we approach our lives either from a place of love, or a place of fear. And sometimes a jumble of both.
From that perspective, whether clients are coming to see me about food, addictions, insomnia, compulsive behavior or whatever, I encourage them to look at the fear that underlies the problem.
And this is where the work gets super easy.
The treatment for fear is always the same. LOVE.
Sometimes we just need reminders or gentle coaching to get back to that place of loving ourselves and each other. The rest then begins to take care of itself...
In Love, Joseph